David Spacht
My dear friend Shari invites us over to swim at her community pool.
While our kids splash around, I start talking to Shari’s husband Dave about raising boys and Build Up Boys. He tells me that he has helped a lot of non-profits get off the ground. He’s willing to help us too. Pro bono!
”Thrilled” doesn’t quite capture how I feel, which is why I still need to work on developing the granularity of my “emotion” words. They make a difference.
“Emotional granularity is defined in a review as the ‘adaptive value of putting feelings into words with a high degree of complexity,’ says Psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett. In experiments, people high in granularity use a range of adjectives in reporting their experiments, while also describing the intensity of things like anger, embarrassment, guilt, and regret. People low in granularity will use angry, sad, or afraid to capture unpleasant things and excited, happy, or calm to describe pleasant things. The benefits of granularity go beyond being well-spoken, Barrett says: The greater your granularity, the “more precisely” you can experience your self and your world.”